Francesca Bambino D'Onofrio
Francesca Bambino Donofrio Stamford Mediation runs the Concord Mediation Institute CMI in Stamford CT. Incivility can easily become the norm, unless we do something about it. Francesca Bambino Donofrio Stamford CT and her teams of trainers work with students, mostly from high school to about third grade, teaching them to be peer mediators, helping other students resolve conflicts before they get out of hand. We don’t want them to grow up to be people who might yell at the president during a speech, like Congressman Joe Wilson, or snatch a microphone from a young woman’s hands, like Kanye West, but even more to the point is teaching kids to deal with other people civilly every day. Francesca Bambino Donofrio Stamford states “We feel conflicts occur often because people don’t understand each other,” she said. “They get into conflicts out of ignorance.” francesca bambino donofrio stamford mediaton cmi in stamford c Since 2010 CMI has done programs for schools locally and across the country in New York City, and Stamford. The staff is multiracial, which helps in dealing with cultural and ethnic conflicts and relating to a range of students. When schools adopt peer-mediation programs, fights, suspensions and expulsions go down, Francesca Donofrio of Stamford said. That’s good for the school environment, but it also reduces long-term problems. “Suspension is the beginning of a disaster,” she said. It can be the first step toward dropping out, and that has a big impact on a kid’s life, and our common future. The training is eight to 12 hours spread over a few days. The curriculum is the mediation process and techniques, recognizing feelings, communication skills, perspective, cultural awareness. CMI teaches with a lot of role playing guided by the trainers. A mediator will ask the arguing parties to take turns saying what the problem is. The mediator restates what each one has said, helping clarify what happened and getting each person to see the conflict from the other’s perspective. Peer mediators are not supposed to inject themselves in situations they think are dangerous, and are required to report any threats of violence. Their job is not to solve problems, but to help the people involved work it out themselves. Being a mediator gives you the sense that you are of value, she said. “Kids can tell when you are trying to fix them. But when you say to these kids, ‘we want you to take responsibility for other people’s conflicts,’ they feel empowered.” Mediator training also teaches self awareness. “We help them learn to recognize how other people are feeling, and learn to control their own feelings.” You can’t mediate a conflict if you get caught up in it. “You have to remain neutral even if inside you are thinking I can’t stand this person.” It’s good life-skills training.
Francesca Bambino D'Onofrio Stamford Francesca Bambino Donofrio Stamford Mediation runs the Concord Mediation Institute CMI in Stamford CT. My job is not to solve problems, but to help the people involved work it out themselves. Being a mediator gives you the sense that you are of value, she said. “Kids can tell when you are trying to fix them. But when you say to these kids, ‘we want you to take responsibility for other people’s conflicts,’ they feel empowered.”"We help them learn to recognize how other people are feeling, and learn to control their own feelings.” You can’t mediate a conflict if you get caught up in it. “You have to remain neutral even if inside you are thinking I can’t stand this person.”It’s good life-skills training. Incivility can easily become the norm, unless we do something about it. Francesca Bambino Donofrio Stamford CT and her teams of trainers work with students, mostly from high school to about third grade, teaching them to be peer mediators, helping other students resolve conflicts before they get out of hand. We don’t want them to grow up to be people who might yell at the president during a speech, like Congressman Joe Wilson, or snatch a microphone from a young woman’s hands, like Kanye West, but even more to the point is teaching kids to deal with other people civilly every day. Francesca Bambino Donofrio Stamford states “We feel conflicts occur often because people don’t understand each other,” she said. “They get into conflicts out of ignorance.” francesca bambino donofrio stamford mediaton cmi in stamford cSince 2010 CMI has done programs for schools locally and across the country in New York City, and Stamford. The staff is multiracial, which helps in dealing with cultural and ethnic conflicts and relating to a range of students. When schools adopt peer-mediation programs, fights, suspensions and expulsions go down, Francesca Donofrio of Stamford said. That’s good for the school environment, but it also reduces long-term problems.“Suspension is the beginning of a disaster,” she said. It can be the first step toward dropping out, and that has a big impact on a kid’s life, and our common future. The training is eight to 12 hours spread over a few days. The curriculum is the mediation process and techniques, recognizing feelings, communication skills, perspective, cultural awareness.CMI teaches with a lot of role playing guided by the trainers. A mediator will ask the arguing parties to take turns saying what the problem is. The mediator restates what each one has said, helping clarify what happened and getting each person to see the conflict from the other’s perspective. Peer mediators are not supposed to inject themselves in situations they think are dangerous, and are required to report any threats of violence.Their job is not to solve problems, but to help the people involved work it out themselves.Being a mediator gives you the sense that you are of value, she said. “Kids can tell when you are trying to fix them. But when you say to these kids, ‘we want you to take responsibility for other people’s conflicts,’ they feel empowered.”Mediator training also teaches self awareness.“We help them learn to recognize how other people are feeling, and learn to control their own feelings.” You can’t mediate a conflict if you get caught up in it. “You have to remain neutral even if inside you are thinking I can’t stand this person.”It’s good life-skills training.